Building Self Esteem - A Self Improvement Essential
So how do you stay happy, calm, composed and
maintain self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you
may like to consider as a starting guide to self
improvement.
Imagine yourself as a Dart Board.Everything and everyone
else around you may become darts, at one point or another. These
darts will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you
will not even realise. Don't let them destroy you, or get the
best of you. Here are the darts you should avoid?
Dart #1 : Negative Work Environment Beware of 'dog eat dog'
environment where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This
is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will
appreciate your contributions and efforts even if you miss lunch and
dinner, and stay up late to complete an assignment. A lot of the
time you will be given an unreasonable number of tasks to complete
and get little, or no help from those around you. Stay out of
this scenario, it will ruin your self esteem and mental health.
Competition is everywhere and necessary. Be healthy and courageous
enough to compete, but in healthy, honest competition.
Dart #2: Other People's Behaviour Bulldozers, brown nosers,
gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, walking wounded,
controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers... all
these negative people will be detrimental to your self esteem, and
your self improvement efforts. Avoid them like the plague.
Dart #3: Changing Environment You cannot be a green bug on a
brown field. Change challenges our paradigms. It tests our
flexibility, our adaptability and can improve the way we think.
Change may make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but
it will strengthen us and help us find ways to improve ourselves.
Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible to it, and
accept it where necessary.
Dart #4: Past Experience We have all experienced pain in our
past. That pain should be looked upon as a lesson in which we can
look at other ways of achieving the required results, without the
pain. We cannot allow our pain to create fear. Treat each failure,
mistake and painful experience as a lesson, BUT learn from the
lessons.
Dart #5: Negative World View Look at what you are doing.
Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world, human
nature tends to seek out the negatives first. In building self
esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.
Look for the great potential of the person/action and avoid, or
ignore, negative influences.
Dart #6: Determination Theory The way you are and your
behavioural traits is said to be a mixed end product of your
inherited traits, your upbringing, and your environmental
surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your
circle of friends. However, remember that you have your own
identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to
be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll
never have to encounter the same mistakes.
Sometimes, you may wonder if some people are
born leaders or positive thinkers. NO!!! Being positive, and staying
positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines for
self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. By the same
token - you can choose to be a failure.
Building self esteem will eventually lead to
self improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are,
what we have and what we do. It's like a flame that should gradually
spread like a brush fire. When we develop self esteem, we take
control of our mission, values and discipline. Self esteem
brings about self improvement, true self assessment, and
determination. So how do you start putting up the building blocks of
self esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative.
Never miss an opportunity to pass a compliment. A positive way of
living will help you build self esteem and thereby improve your
mental health, then, you are on your way to self
improvement.
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